The Do’s and don’ts of the dance
This segment is dedicated to giving advice on asking for dance’s. This advice includes entire facets and will be updated frequently.
Do
• While approaching the customer, smile with bright eyes
• When approaching customer for dance introduce yourself
• Use friendly and open body language while walking on the floor
• Always keep a bottle of Bianca in your purse
• Always heed what’s going on the floor and notice that which customers are trying to make eye contact with you.
• Go and sit with the customer who holds his eye contact with you. Make your eye contacts to let the customer know that door is open to go through.
• While dancing on the floor keep smiling and maintain sunny disposition. From this way you look like an eye candy and try to become his favorite.
• Go with your beautiful friends and ask for doubles. Encourage your client that you two are well rehearsed and able to give a great show.
• Notice the steps that are used by girls on the floor. If you follow this then you won’t replicate any ineffective ways.
• Consult with some of your colleagues to recognize the customer who came daily and don’t purchase dances. You should continuously approach him and make eye contact in order to convince him.
• Don’t forget to notice the guys in front of you while you are dancing. Always try to keep your from the front of your body towards the audience.
• Before going on the stage, don’t forget to notice that what is playing on the screen. You need to attract customers with a strong and hot performance. If a ball game or porn is playing on the screen, don’t shy and go for the eye contact.
Don’t
• Don’t go on the stage with cigarette in your hand
• Don’t chew gum while convincing customers
• Don’t be seen free or hanging on the lobby.
• Don’t sit on the unemployment table or bench talking with your friends. If someone calls you then say “hi and get back to you whenever I’ll free”.
• Don’t scream and yell at with your friends on the floor. Such kind of behavior is annoying. Don’t get wild as well and maintain your femininity.
• Stand at DJ booth for entire night. You two might be friends but it looks odd.
• Don’t perform badly or half ass performance as nobody is tipping you. Practice and try to give better performance.
Stay Entertaining Always
It is a fact that human brain will like new thing and action and get bored early with repetitive action. Dancing on stage can also be repetitive. You start noticing yourself thinking about grocery lists or relationships, because in your sleep also you could do your stage show! LOL….
It is very important that you don’t permit this to ensue to you, because your expression represents your boredom. From this, your customer will become bore and will not show any interest in your stage show.
Effective tips to stay attractive:
Decide your dance number precisely – It means that decide five to six fast tracks for the evening and five to six slow songs for the daytime. Stick only to these tracks and ask to be played order wise. Tell your DJ operator that you are trying to do something new. If these tracks are not available then buy your self.
Perform Splits
Lots of dancer willing to have the ability to perform splits. If you are such dancer then you should ask a question to yourself that “why you want to perform splits”. You can perform kicking as well. Kicking high needs energetic flexibility whereas the splits need passionate flexibility. You have to decide that what type of flexibility you can perform. If you are able to perform splits and assuming that you are fit enough from hip joints to do the splits.
Front Split
There are two kinds of splits: front and side. In front one, you have to stretch out your one let to the front and stretch other at the back, whereas in side slit, your leg stretched out to your side.
Lots of strippers skips stretching steps without realizing that how much important it is to attract the customers.
Here are some advantages of stretching
• improve physical fitness
• enhance your ability to learn and perform splits
• improve development of body
• Reduce possibility of injury of muscles, joints and tendons
• Reduce muscular pain
• Reduce severity of painful menstruation.
It is very crucial that before performing stretching you should do general warm-up. It is not good to perform stretching when your muscles are warm. You should do slow movements both counter clockwise and clockwise, until the joint seems to move smoothly.
Usually, you should do the following when putting together a stretching routine:
First, stretch your back then sides then stretch your buttocks before stretching your groin or your hamstrings then stretch your claves after that stretch your shins before stretching your quadriceps and then stretch your arms before stretching your chest.
Stretching Don’t – Following stretches are considered risky due to high risk of injury but that do not means that these stretches will never be performed. If you perform these stretches with proper guidance, some stretches can be beneficial for you. Some of stretches are listed below:
The Yoga Plough – In this stretch, you lie on your back side and try to sweep your stress on the lower back and try to ouch your knees to your ears.
Traditional Backbend – In this exercise, your backside is maximally curved with the soles of your fleet and palms of your hands both flat on the floor and your neck titled back.
Straight legged toe touches – In this exercise, your legs will be straight and your back is bent over while you attempt to touch your toes or the floor.
Traditional hurdler’s stretch – This exercise has you sit on the ground with one leg fully flexed behind you, as you lean back and back and stretch quadriceps of the flexed leg.
Inverted Stretches – In this exercise, you “hand upside down”. Staying inverted for too long increases your blood pressure and may rupture blood vessels.
Massage
There are lots of dancers who are unaware of the benefits of the massage:
Increase Blood Flow – Massaging of the muscles helps to warm up those muscles, increasing their blood flow and enhance their circulation.
Removal of metabolic waste – The massage action and improved circulation and blood flow which results, helps to eliminate waste products from your body such as lactic acid from the muscles.
Give relaxation to massaged muscles – The massaged muscles are more relaxed. This is specifically helpful when you stretch those muscles.
Due to these advantages, you would like to do regular massage for stretching program.
Raise your standards and dollars
Are you someone who is unable to meet your basic necessities even though you are working seven days a week? Well the solution is that you can raise your Lap dance prices. In early days, customer across US was paying between $5 to $10 per tale dance and couch dance. But now economy has changed. Nowadays dancers are charging 4 times more for the same dance. This is not crazy, when you ask this to girl, they will charge about $1000 a night. 90 percent will admit that they are selling dance for $30-$40 a piece.
I am always a firm believer of giving the customer what he desires in affordable prices. And I have been practicing the same so I could hit them up with more incentives. But to my dismay I always ended up cheating myself with the other women who walked out with twice as much as me.
Actual fact is that they will pay any amount you want if you can make them realize that you are worth and deserve it. Sometimes, customers would pay more to get quality rather than getting shafted and cutting corners.
So what are you? A Benz or a Hyundai
Some of the good reasons and ways that can seamlessly bump up your costs are as follows:
1. Invest plenty of money and time in your presentation.
If you are spending more than ½ of your money on cosmetics, costumes and accessories for the club then you must deserve to give yourself a raise. You should not become greedy if money is going right back into stuff for work. You can describe to your customer that it’s all for him, in case he has the anger to complain.
Describe him how much money and energy it takes for the look that you have done for him and asking for more charges is the only way to assure him that he will get good service. I would prefer that your appearance will make him realize that you really work hard to get this look.
2. Having great experience
If you are in this industry for a long time then you need to raise the price. Even a small business or job will raise its price with the changing economy. Especially when, if you are still charging the same price that you charge when you joined. You deserve this raise because you have lots of experience on pleasing your customers. Explain your customer that you have enough experience to make them happy.
3. You are flawless
You do regular exercise and have good genes and the face of model. With this reason also, you can charge high. You are passionate dancer who just walk up and ask “wanna dance?” and they instantly come up then why don’t you get what you want from them.
4. You Can Give Good Lap Dance
If you are able to give relaxation to your customer and leave your customer with head spinning after finishing you dance, then don’t hesitate and go ahead to give a raise. If you are getting compliments from the customers that how good you are then it means that it’s time to raise your charge. I have doubt that he would say more once you finish your lap dance. Infact, he would ask for more, more and more…
Prepare Before Rejoining
Are you thinking to rejoin you previous job as a stripper? There is nothing wrong with returning on the previous job. There might be several reasons for you such as you have no money or may be you are not satisfied with your new job. Most of ex-stripper wants of rejoin as a stripper. You just need enough preparation and planning time to set your mind including exotic dancing after a long break. I was the stripper and just return as stripper after long period of time, 3 years. For so long, my experience as a stripper has been great. It is quite difficult to work up with lots of courage with this line “just do it”. When I completed one my first strip, I was comfortable and ready to do more. I promise that back on the top with challenge is a fun. You just need to remember your success and how much you enjoy totally depends on your mentality.
Mental preparation – The time that you spend during the break in this real world possibly humbled you a lot. Now you are going to rejoin the world of fantasy as a stripper again. At first you will be bit hesitate after few time you will become more confident and able to do more.
As you were away for short period of time from this field and you may forget negative things that you experienced before but you should try hard to remember the negative aspects of stripping. You will come up with the same challenges which you faced before. The key advantage you have now is a factor that is called ‘hindsight’. So, if you will face this kind of challenges again, you will be better prepared to overcome these challenges. It is far better than being caught off guard.
Despite the bad things are associated with this industry or any other bad experienced that you faced in the past but as whole stripping is quite fun as well. Take it as job not as lifestyle. Leave your stage name at the club when you are off and always try not to work extra. Try to involve yourself in other activities that will keep you grounded and balanced. If you are suffering from cold feet again, would give you an advice that you should visit few clubs in your local area and get re-introduced to the scene. Keep noticing the costumes and styles that girls are using so that you will not go with outdated style. You may either become waitress first or enter in part-time contest. If you have extreme case of jitters then only do this. You will get back to the environment seamlessly.
Physical Preparation
You can skip this option you are in the same figure as you were before. Lack of vigorous exercise may cause metabolism slow down. You have to decide whether you are satisfied with your first presentation or not. If you want to step back on the stage with attractive shape, then you need to work out first. Getting good shape again is good idea. If you don’t have a time to exercise and need to join immediately then make sure to do exercise before and after your shifts. The advantage of being in the same figure or shape will come in the form of extra energy and tips. It is not necessary to join health club. Walking a few miles everyday and little bit exercise will help you to get shaped body and glow on your skin.
Getting back into the Swing of Things
After joining back you should contact all the past friends if they are still in the clubs. Ask about the laws, house rules or fees and management changes during your hiatus. These changes might effect your decision of joining back. So, don’t forget to find out that what you have to change.
Child Care
If you have school age children then you can select working in a day shift. During this shift you don’t need to pay for day care. If day shift is not right for you then you need to find someone who will take care of your child in your absence. It would be in the best interest of your children if you weren’t getting home at the night. Their lives shouldn’t be turned upside down just because you wish to dance again. Try to make the transition simple for them also. If you child will be happy then you will feel less guilty. You can also work alternate days so that you are able to spend quality time with your children.
Your current job or school
You need to do some time management if you are working 9-5 on a job or stay in school. It is quite well to 9-5 with stripping. Doing so will keep yourself grounded. Go over your job or school schedule, and then take out some time for strip. Make sure that you will allow yourself to get enough sleep. It would be good for you, if you keep your stripping job a secret from your school fellow or co-workers. You also need peace of mind. There don’t keep yourself too busy with work.
Your family and friends
It is quite difficult to discuss this issue with your family and friends especially when you quit the first time. You would have to take the full control of your life. You have to make them understand that it becomes different this time. Ask them to give support to keep you grounded and you will leave this industry if you begin experiencing negativity.
Kick The Pessimist Around You
You are hated if you are popular. A lot of people try to show you down as they always wish to see themselves in your position. This is their ultimate drive as they get very irritated by seeing others progressing in their lives. This can be seen in Adult Entertainment Industry. All these people do not like to make good relationships with the people of higher ranks or their colleagues.
All the people who envy from others always try to prove themselves the best amid everyone. They compliment themselves which make they sound fools. Although they try to be your friend, but their negativity does not allow them to be in your circle. As a matter of fact, they feel uncomfortable with the other smart people around. All these people waste their entire time in thinking how you can get fired from your job. Such people do not deserve a small smile also.
Simply eliminate yourself from these people and think is that person trust worthy? The sure answer that you will get is a big “NO”. Trusting such people can be the biggest mistake of your life. It is fine to listen to them until they speak about themselves. But they can become problematic when they bitch about others. Listening to juicy gossip is always very nice but always keep in mind that you just have to listen and keep mum in front of such people.
At times you will realize that your own friends behave as if they are your enemies. In such case you should cut down your interaction with them. You should try to avoid them. Do not call her and avoid going out with them. Work opposite to her timings and show that you are busy and do not have time to meet. Do not speak to others about your problems with your “so-called friend”.
You need to understand that all the people are different and have different natures. If you make any effort to change them, then you are wasting your time. You should always keep in mind that you are out to make money and not to make friends who are actually not worth.
Handle the bad customers boldly
Regular customers spend so much time and money on you; sometimes they feel that they should control themselves. Suddenly that nice guy to whom you met before one or two month ago is a complete asshole. Yuck. Abruptly, he criticizes your beauty when you are in the top ten money maker. You don’t need to deal with such asshole.
Your jealous, bastard ‘admirer’ says, “Why should you have fun with others when I go about paying for you?”
You don’t require some loser like this beating you off your game. Nobody knows the reasons why they act like that. I just say that “loser men always get jealous over beautiful and successful powerful woman”.
Most of the time they are your halt buddies. Sometimes they make you wish to hit their lights out. You would better trust, at some factor, your regular customers will try to loosen their power. Nevertheless, they are the men with emotions, brains and your paycheck.
Anything is liable to ember a dispute:
You start dancing for other customer
You are standing them up at the club
You are getting much attention from other customers.
You make him realize that he is inadequate as a man, be it any way.
The way loser will revenge:
Seek to get dance from your best friend
Seek to get dance from nastiest enemy
Seek to get dance from your cousin or sister
Try to spread rubbish rumors about you to your colleagues
Usually, these are those customers who fucked up their lives and marriages. They have breakable ego or proud to start with. You are source of stress relieving in his stress time. He will leave the club with better mood when he entered.
The other customers for frenzy are young lonely guys with no lives. You will find that their social life is at your strip club. They just wanted to create dramas and quarrel between dancers because creating drama is their passion.
In revenge this Loser will:
Tell all your colleagues that mind their own business
TELL all your co-worker’s your personal business.
TELL all your co-worker’s what you charge for dance’s.
TELL all your co-worker’s what kind of Drugs you’re into.
ANYTHING to get you’re and your Co-workers fighting.
Most Regular’s think of your club as a regular dinner theater where at last they get to play wildly.
But, at some point they will get a false notion and think “THEY” are the Stars.
I’d advise you to get away from any regular who tries to manipulate you. Hanging on to him is a waste of time and borderline abusive. And, he will end up stealing all of your energy. You won’t even be able to concentrate on your other customers.
Dance without Spoiling Your Mood
Men, you either love them or hate them? If you love them then get ready to make the money. If you don’t like them you haven’t found your niche yet. Customers usually pick up the vibrations that you put out. So, keep friendly thoughts in your mind and be affectionate with everyone in the club. It is good if you’re seen on the floor and having fun with the guys in the club. This way your customer will know that you are a source of enjoyment and have a good time.
There are lots of strippers who make common mistake of bringing men issues in the club. A guy who cheats his girl friend can only break the trust of girls in men. At this place where you need to keep your personal problems aside. Try to embrace the men at the club. They will call you smart, hot, sexy and spend money on you, not like your cheating boyfriend. Don’t behave like a fool.
At club you need to show the door to your grief or shyness and party it up. It also helps you to not to sit in the dressing room and listen to other stripper’s men issues. Why you should brought down? Tell your friends to call at home and concentrate on making the money.
Don’t let just few bad customers spoil your night. Sometime some customers try to fuck your mind and then go away. It’s his problem to deal like that. You can obviously see his life is fucked up. May be he just come to strip club to abuse girls. So, don’t waste your time and energy. Go and find another customer and then you and your customer can laugh on him. Your customer will form your ego by taunting him that what loser guy he is.
Don’t be afraid if you lack the ability to deal with men easily. It would prefer that you go out to some bars or clubs and hang out with some. Think in yourself if I deal with him then what would I say? Feel free in front of them and the dollars will roll in.